Discernment While Tip Toeing Through the New Age

Let’s talk about discernment while navigating through the waters of the New Age and Metaphysics community…

Entering the world of the New Age and Metaphysical can be healing, rewarding and fun…

Entering the world of the New Age and Metaphysical can be healing, rewarding and fun…

I started my own personal journey into spirituality, the new age and metaphysics when I was in my late 20’s. Like some, I was going through my life on automatic pilot. I had a pretty demanding day job and I tended to work a lot of hours. I would normally come home, pop open a beer, and just zone out in front of the TV.

One typical day I came home, repeated the same pattern, but for the first time in my life I started to notice thoughts running through my head. Very negative thoughts like - you’re no good, no one will ever love you, you’re horrible at your job, etc… I was completely blown away by what I was experiencing. A mix of disbelief, shock, and horror. It was in that moment that I dumped out my beer, shut off the TV and began meditating (without having a clue as to what I was doing). But that experience started my own personal journey into spirituality and the new age community.

Spiritual Journey’s

What I have learned is that there are many mountain top and deep valley experiences once you start down the path of learning and experiencing what spirituality and healing may mean for you. There are so many potential paths to go down once you open up to health, healing and the divine at the mind, body, spirit levels.

Some examples of spiritual related paths may be:

I could probably go on with many more examples of new age, spiritual or metaphysical areas to study and discover. One could easily get lost within the Hay House universe for many years.


The point of this blog is that if you are either new to the new age/metaphysical community or still taking classes and investigating I am advocating a specific type of discernment as you continue down this path. Through my own initial excitement and studies, I have to admit that I was easily distracted by the spiritual teaching of the “moment.” Friends or acquaintances would constantly suggest books, teachings, paths, workshops, and healing modalities and I would run to the next new idea without slowing down to consider if it was right for me or not.

It was all so exciting and I wanted to try it all. I did try many different things on my initial path. But along the way I started to realize that I was hearing the same things, running in to the same types of people and I still wasn’t really sure what following all of these different teachings and philosophies was really buying me (other than a sense that I felt better about myself). I also noticed there was still quite a bit of judgment in the community about following certain ideas or trying to “one up” each other with how many abilities they had or how much spiritual knowledge one could expunge in a sitting.

Now that I have been doing readings for people all around the world for over a decade now, I get the same questions over and over again when it comes to following a spiritual path: What should I be doing? Am I on the right path? Should I be a healer or psychic?

These are great questions and the one thing I have learned by tapping into higher self and spiritual team/guide energy is that it doesn’t matter specifically what spiritual path or healing path you take as long as it provides happiness and healing for you as well as for those around you. So don’t fret, just go with whatever feels right or good to you in the moment.

When it comes to developing discernment around your spiritual path, here are some tips:

  1. When a friend or spiritual community member says, “you should try or do ___.” Thank them and just sit with it for a few days. I would not recommend jumping from one idea to the next just because someone suggests it to you. Sit with it. Wait and see if you hear it suggested three or more times. then act on it.

  2. When checking out a spiritual teacher, psychic/intuitive, or channeled material - try to see if you can get a sample of the material or talk with the teacher/psychic before working with them. Myself and several friends have heard great things about a spiritual teacher but when we invested our time and money into a workshop or weekend, we were disappointed because we didn’t feel that person or their teachings “spoke” to us.

  3. When you receive training or hear certain spiritual teachers, I would recommend sitting with the material for several months before deciding to teach others what you have learned. I love that people get excited about material they have learned, but I think it serves the community even more if you can integrate it into your own learning vs. parroting other teacher’s material.

  4. Before hanging your shingle out as a healer, intuitive, psychic or spiritual teacher/guru I would highly recommend offering free sessions or low-cost sessions when you are starting out. Get about 100 hours under your belt before advertising yourself as a master level [fill in the blank]. To me this is a split between integrity and using discernment in the spiritual community.

  5. When you're listening to a spiritual teacher, reading their material, or watching a video continue to ask your own inner knowing, ‘Does this serve my highest and greatest good?’ ‘Is this teacher in alignment with greater truth?’ the answer maybe ‘yes’ at first, but keep checking in as your get into more material or as you interact with the teacher more. I have had a few teachers that I resonated with up front but then soon discovered they did not walk their talk and I moved on, grateful for the learning but also not wanting to waste anymore time receiving information that was not in alignment with my ethics or higher self vision.

  6. When listening to reading channeled material, I would highly recommend you continuously pause and check within yourself to see if the material resonates as true to you or true to God/Creator. There are many different channelings out in the world. Some really speak to me, while others feel highly filtered or distorted. It will be up to you to decide for yourself, but definitely check if the material holds truth for you.

  7. One of the most important questions to ask - Is this information bringing closer or further away from God? This is a question not many folks in the new age community tend to ask. There is so much excitement around the newest and coolest concept, spiritual technology, or healing that we often forget to ask the bigger question - will this bring me back to God and true Love

This blog is not meant to dampen anyone’s spirits as they walk down the exciting path of metaphysics and spirituality, but to remind all of us that we can do it with integrity, discernment and that we don’t need to judge others on their path. If you have any discernment stories or ideas, I’d love to hear from you in the comments section.